Don’t let Technology Ruin Your Relationship!

Technology has come a long way in recent years, and communicating has never been easier.  Sometimes though, it can get in the way of trusting your significant other.  Read on to see how not to let technology ruin a good thing.

Communication technology doesn’t have to hurt your relationship.  Here’s how.

Relationships have come a long way in the past few years.  True, the introduction of cell phones, e-mail and social media (i.e., Facebook, Twitter), has made communication a lot easier, and if you really want to find out more about communication you should check  However, these technologies also have a habit of testing the trust in relationships, and can sometimes cause problems where problems needn’t be.

Don’t let Technology Ruin Your Relationship!

Here are a few ways to keep these problems from getting in the way of an otherwise healthy relationship:

Don’t be a Creeper!

I know that it’s tempting to constantly scan his online profiles for messages written by other girls.  Sometimes, you might even see ones from random girls signed “xo”.  Don’t go too crazy over these things.  Most girls I know sign-off most online messages like that to anyone that is a friend.

Online Friends Aren’t Your Biggest Worry

If you do see girls online saying things like “we should get together for lunch one of these days”, feel free to ask him about it.  However – if this girl is contacting him by Facebook, she probably doesn’t have his phone number.  Therefore, how close can they really be, right?  Don’t freak out every time you see something small.  If it does make you squirm though, just ask him nicely – don’t be accusing.

You Don’t Need his Passwords

Sometimes you will want to ask him for his passwords to email and Facebook.  Sometimes in an effort to show you that nothing is going on – he will give them to you.  Don’t let this happen.  It will drive you crazy, feeling the need to check it constantly.  Also, what if you and him have an argument and he needs to vent or ask advice to one of his buddies?  He won’t want you to read that, and you will end up driving him to open a new account that you don’t know about.  E-mail is personal.  If he’s going to try something with someone, he will do it whether you have his password or not.  Just don’t go here.

Checking His Phone

If neither one of you are doing anything wrong, it wouldn’t technically matter if either checked the other’s phone.  However, cell phones are also personal.  If you find him texting someone constantly, simply ask him who it is.  He should have no problem letting you know.  Ask him to show you if you suspect anything, but don’t insist on reading every message.  You’ll drive him crazy!

I Made a Mistake and Cheated… What Do I Do Now?

Cheated and Regret It? Learn What to do Next

We all make mistakes… but some are much bigger than others. Cheating on your significant other is considered one of the most hurtful things that you can do to another person. For some people, they do it out of pure selfishness, but for others it really is just a terrible mistake that fills them with regret – and then even more despair when the person that they loved no longer wants anything to do with them. If you’ve cheated but regret your mistake, here are some things you can do to control the damage and potentially salvage your relationship.

Tip #1: Be Honest

The biggest mistake that you can make after cheating is to lie about it. Chances are you won’t get away with the lie, but even if you do the burden of guilt will weigh you down and my destroy your relationship in a drawn-out and even more painful way. Think of it this way: while there’s a chance your SO will leave you when you tell him you cheated, it’s practically a guarantee that he’ll leave you if someone else tells him! Being honest about it shows your respect for your partner and lends credence to the notion that you see what you did as a mistake.

Tip #2: Don’t Press the Issue

After the bomb has been dropped, it may be tempting to smother your guy in affection to try and “make up” for what you did. This will not work. Not ever. In fact, there’s a good chance that he’s going to want nothing to do with you for a couple of days or even longer after he learns the truth. This is a natural reaction, so don’t jump to any conclusions. He may come back or he may not, but texting him every 10 minutes about is more likely to push him away than anything.

Tip #3: Don’t Make Excuses

Whatever you do, don’t try and justify your actions to your boyfriend or husband. It doesn’t even matter if your reasons had some legitimacy to them – he’s not going to want to hear them and they will only make him resent you. Take full responsibility for your mistake and let him know just how sorry you are.

As a side-note, be careful not to take this too far. Some guys take a cheating woman as carte blanche to do whatever they want – whether it’s cheating themselves or just treating their partner worse in general. Any guy who goes that route isn’t worth fighting to keep, so don’t fall into this trap.

It’s going to take a long time to rebuild the trust in your relationship, so be patient, be respectful, and know when it’s time to give up – because unfortunately, some relationships just can’t come back from infidelity.