Surviving a Long-Distance Relationship
The question of long distance relationships is a complicated one with no simple answer. A long-distance relationship can indeed work, but it requires a certain type of person – and even then it’s never easy. Here are a few warning signs that a long distance relationship may not work for you.
Sign #1: You’re the Jealous Type
Jealousy and long distance relationships are a dangerous combination, to say the least. If you’re the type of person who gets nervous that your boyfriend isn’t where he says he is when he’s late or something like that, then you’re going to live in a constant state of panic if you’re in a long distance relationship. You’ll constantly be wondering if he’s with some other person, and you’ll never be able to know for sure. This will lead to you being suspicious of him and him being resentful of that suspicion, even if he’s totally innocent.
Sign #2: You’re Emotionally High Maintenance?
Some girls need their guy to shower them with gifts to be happy, while others are a different kind of high maintenance – they need constant attention and affection. If you’re that type of girl, a long distance relationship may be doomed. When it comes right down to it, you can only spend so many hours a day on the phone or texting – eventually you’re going to run out of things to talk about. While couples in the same place can just snuggle and watch TV or something, long-distance couples don’t have this option and that can lead to some serious problems for people who don’t do well on their own.
Sign #3: You Don’t Have a Plan
Even the healthiest long distance relationships need a “finish line.” In other words, there needs to be a long term plan for when you and your SO can move to the same area and be together for real. This can be tricky for two young adults who are both pursuing their careers or passions. Sometimes, pursuing a certain career in a certain location simply isn’t an option, and one or both partners can be hesitant to give up their opportunities in the name of a relationship that isn’t guaranteed to succeed (and at the end of the day, no relationship is a guarantee).
Even if none of these warning signs applies to you, don’t think that long distance dating will be an easy thing to do. It is a challenge to be separated from someone whom you love even for a week, let alone months or years. Keep that in mind before you embark on the road of long-distance relationships!